Some Traditions are Great! - And Some are Not
Not all traditions are bad. Of course of study they're not. Some traditions are what maintain our households glued together. But in businesses, in churches, even in families, tradition just for the interest of tradition can be bad. Knowing why we take part in traditions is important, especially when they are company, Christian church or other organisation traditions. But even household traditions should be examined to see if they are hurtful or helpful.
Dictionary.com listings many definitions of the word tradition. They include: "the handling down of statements, beliefs, legends, customs, information from coevals to generation, especially by word of oral cavity or by practice; a long-established or inherited mode of thought or acting; a continuing form of civilization beliefs or practices; a customary or characteristic method or manner; a theology."
Where I believe we acquire into problem is when traditions include the continuing of a manner of thought or a cultural belief where there is credence without thought through why the tradition bes or how it began. To me, such as mindless credence is why there is still bias and discrimination. Prejudice, after all, is "An harmful judgement or sentiment formed beforehand or without cognition or scrutiny of the facts." By accepting an action or thought procedure as traditional, it is easy to see how it could go a damaging enactment as well.
But household traditions, traditions that encompass the enactment of being together in celebration, can be merriment and beneficial. One of my ses have some very particular Christmastide traditions established many old age ago when her girls, now about 19 and 23, were young. They held a cooky exchange each twelvemonth for their friends and each of their mothers. What merriment they had, and what a great mixture of cookies they received each twelvemonth because of this event.
My sister also purchases particular Christmastide decorations each twelvemonth for her daughters. When her firstborn got married, she had quite an unusual mixture to take with her as she established her ain place and traditions.
My sister also sets a pickle decoration on her ain tree each year. I'm not certain to which fable she ascribes about the pickle ornament. Both are supposedly German in origin. One states that the kid who happens the pickle decoration will have an other present. The other states that the kid will have good luck or good fortune in the twelvemonth to come.
The Internet is full of mentions to this supposed German tradition. However, here's a nexus to an article by About.com disclaiming this German myth. http://german.about.com/library/blgermyth11.htm
While it's interesting to detect that the original ground my sister placed the pickle decoration on the tree might be in error, I doubt she will stop the practice. It have go a household tradition, even if the premise of the beginning is incorrect.
In this instance, the beginning of the tradition doesn't really substance because the enactment of placing a pickle decoration on the Christmastide tree doesn't ache anyone. But traditions steeped in mistake that are or can be hurtful are the 1s we must examine.
Recently, I received an electronic mail from 48 Days. 48 Days is a coaching, seminar and self-help company with programmes to change your life in 48 days. In the weekly newsletter, Dan Glenn Miller mentioned a narrative from ThinkerToys by Michael Michalko.
It said, "Imagine a coop containing five monkeys. Inside the coop there is a banana tree on a string. Before long a monkey walks over and attains for the banana. As soon as he touchings the banana, all the monkeys are sprayed with cold water. After a piece another monkey do an effort to catch the banana tree ? with the same result. All the monkeys are instantly sprayed with cold water. Pretty soon, when another monkey seeks to attain for the banana, the other monkeys will seek to halt him.
Now bury the cold water. Remove 1 monkey from the coop and replace it with a new one. The new monkey sees the banana tree and obviously travels over and starts to catch it. But to his surprise, all of the other monkeys onslaught him to forestall him from touching the banana.
Next, take another of the original monkeys and replace it with a new one. Now all of the monkeys currently in the coop halt the new 1 from getting to the banana. Replace the third, 4th and 5th monkeys with new 1s Each 1 goes a willing opposition to allowing anyone to touch that banana.
Soon there are none of the original monkeys in that cage, yet they go on to remain away from bananas, a nutrient they would normally love.
This is what haps to us when we blindly follow traditions of companies, churches, organizations. There are sometimes brainsick activities that we go on to follow without giving any idea to the grounds behind them.
Dan Glenn Miller continues, "Does your Christian church sit down in pews, sing 3 songs and have got a 30 minute discourse because that's the best manner to finish God's work here, or just because that's go a cultural tradition?"
I smiled as I read that question. The Christian church I go to have unit of ammunition tabular arrays instead of pews. We imbibe java and eat doughnuts while we listen to the sermon, and the unit of ammunition tabular arrays supply a perfect surface for taking short letters and for visiting quietly with our neighbors.
Our curate bucked tradition from the beginning. He arrived at the Christian church 23 old age ago with a guitar in tow. He used "media" in his Christian church services when that mean value using 8mm movies and microscope slide projectors and operating expense projectors. Now, of course, he utilizes computing machines and large screens, and our congratulations squad and the "pulpit" have got the up-to-the-minute sound equipment. And lest you believe otherwise, ours is not a mega-church. We have, at most, 200 members and our curate is the lone paid staff member. Although our Christian church is United Methodist, the mark outside states Capital Of Oregon Community Church. Still, there are new traditions in the thick of one who Rebels against many traditions. I doubt that those unit of ammunition tabular arrays will be removed while this curate presides over the church. He have established that as a Christian church tradition.
While thought about unusual traditions, I thought about the gag about the female parent who was instruction her adolescent girl to cook the "traditional" jambon for a household vacation dinner. Rich Person you heard this one?
The female parent was preparing the jambon and she cut off the end of it and set it aside to utilize for sandwiches. She spoke to her girl about how to season the jambon and when to add the pineapple plants to the pan. She saw that her daughter's human face was all scrunched up in confusion.
"What?" asked the mom.
"Why did you cut off the end of the ham?" inquired the daughter.
"Weeeeellllll......" stammered the mom. "I'm not really sure. My female parent always cut off the end of the ham. Maybe it doesn't cook up as well. Grandma will be here tonight for dinner and we'll inquire her."
When Grandma arrived, and before she could even acquire her coat off, her granddaughter excitedly said, "Grandma, Ma is instruction me how to do the ham. Why did you cut off the end of the ham? Ma didn't know."
Grandma allow out a loud abdomen laugh. "Why, dear, I cut off the end of the jambon because I couldn't suit it in the pan if I didn't. I liked using the pan I got from my mother, but it was never quite large adequate for the size jambon I got. So I cut off the tip."
What about you? Are you cutting off the end of the jambon without knowing why?
As Dan Glenn Miller said, "Take the adjacent 7 years to dispute all your day-to-day assumptions. You may be surprised how you can bring out some readily available fresh, dainty banana trees right within your reach!"
Here's a nexus to the whole newsletter referenced above: http://www.48days.com/newsletter_archives/archive.php?date=20070918 If you read it, be certain to take short letter of Cindy Cashman's book Everything Work Force Know About Women. I believe you'll acquire a boot out of how originative Cindy was 20 old age ago when this book first published. As Dan Glenn Miller says, you might think, "Why didn't I believe of that?"
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